Attachment - How to create non attachment with total love

"Attachment - Pain or Pleasure?

Everyone goes through it every day of their lives. Attachment can give us much happiness, as well as much pain. I personally believe, we attract what we need to experience in life to evolve.

For instance, this may come in the form of a relationship, what we will see in this person, will be a mirror of ourselves. If there's something you don't like about the person, it will usually be something you don't like about yourself.

'So what's wrong with being attached?' I hear you say. Well, I think you know the answer to that yourself! it creates a sense of utter grief when we can no longer hold on to something. Let's take Relationships again. (It's usually this type of attachment that causes most people pain)

Okay, so you've been in a relationship for 2 years, everything was great, except for the last few months, your partner decides he or she no longer wants to be in the relationship for whatever reason. How do you respond? - with Pain . You can't let go of him/her. You have created and rooted into your mind, that this person is 'yours'. He/She is not allowed to end the relationship and must stay with you. Hmmm, whatever happened to 'I love you' ...

Love is meant to be Unconditional

Read the above again.

What I mean by unconditional is that when a relationship isn't working, i.e. one of you or even both of you decide that you can't continue with the relationship for whatever reason, you must Let Go of all emotions to move on. You still care for that person, but you love them enough to let them continue their journey. Most times someone will come into your life to help you with a lesson and it will usually work both ways. If you don't let go, you will be stuck in the same pattern again and again and again ... until you DO learn.

Here's an undeniable fact - We are mortal - we don't live forever"... so are you going to take that person with you when you die? ... No, I didn't think so...

'So how the heck can I do this?, we shared so much together, and he/she meant so much to me' I hear you say ... there are a number of ways you can Let Go, and you can help yourself right NOW. Practice these methods every morning and evening, and you will notice a difference in the first few days and a dramatic difference after 20 days! and will make you more 'aware' in all types of situations in the future.

Okay, let's go ...

"It's your movie!"

Picture yourself with your partner, bring it to life, give it colour... sound.. smell... feelings... everything! Take it all in ... now look at what is going on with you and your partner and become 'the watcher' - it's a movie screen and you're watching everything that's going on. As an outsider, you're seeing everything that's going on between these 2 people in a very unbiast way, you will begin to feel different, notice things that didn't seem right and will be totally honest about what you see and feel. This will bring to light what was wrong with the relationship, your true feelings, and what you need to do now.

Takea moment and try it now!!

See yourself in a understanding relationship with this person and bless them with unconditional love and let them go ... do this with conviction and don't falter in anyway. You must believe this when you do it, otherwise you're leaving things 'open' and will let the situation continue. There's no reason you can't stay friends. And there you have 'Non Attachment'

There is absolutely no problem with being friends with this person - you can't hate them, you're unconditional love! Period.

"Let Go! - Be FREE!!!"

That's it!!!

'What!!!!?' I hear you say? - come on now, don't try and make this something that's difficult, it really IS THAT easy!

Right then, sit down, legs crossed, in a nice quiet area, somewhere where you feel calm and relaxed. close your eyes and just... b r e a t h e ... in and out ... nice and slow. Don't think of anything, just - b r e a t h e. Do it for minute, ...Now, with every breath you're breathing out, release all your negative feelings... everything that's making you feel rubbish, everything that's upsetting you, let it all go! ahhhhhhhh, feeling much lighter!!

Don't you feel better already!? - wouldn't you rather be feeling this from now on!? Yes of course you would!! ...

A fast way of doing this is to imagine that you only have 1 week left to live, would you seriously be thinking of all your negative crap right now?? ... No, of course not!!!

They're only thoughts, and you can change a thought.... how quick?........ in an INSTANT!!!

So which would you rather have :


Emotional isuse = Problem = Hate = Jealousy = Anger = Self unworthiness = Depression = Attracting more of Anger, Jealousy... and more depression

OR

Emotional issue = Problem = Let Go = Be Free = Happiness = Self Love = Unconditional Love = Self Growth = Being Complete - One = Attracting more of happiness and growing


I know which method I would be using!!!! :)

When YOU'RE balanced - you will receive a balanced relationship.

YOUR INNER WORLD CREATES YOUR OUTER WORLD!

This is beautifull. Have a read through the below excerpt for a more detailed explanation of Non Attachment.


"Non-attachment involves always being able to keep our minds above any turmoil or trials of the environment. So as to rise above irritations and injustices that assail us, what happens each moment is viewed as a passing instance.

Non-attachment arises in adopting the long-term perspective on any matter, rather than considering only spontaneous impulses, immediate fears or short-term satisfactions. It comes of taking the broad view in making judgements rather than strictly personal or partisan interests.

Non-attachment will be easy to achieve to the extent that our understanding, through both experience and proper instruction, enables us to realise the fuller meaning and consequences of different sorts of attitude and action for us, for others and thus again for the common interest (which again includes our interest).

Non-attachment produces equanimity. It has long been referred to by Vedantists as the attitude of 'being in the world but not being of it'. (Non-attachment in sanskrit is prasakti or vairagya) In practice this implies engaging in all normal worldly activities and duties without defining oneself fundamentally in terms of them - in other words, without regarding one's personal success or failure as being crucially dependent on the results that accrue from one's doings of the world. This does not mean an avoidance of personal responsibility or abdication of personal initiative, but rather implies the independence of one's sense of being (or of inner well-being) from external events.

On the other hand, it means a positive identification with one's being with one's true nature or birthright, one's higher potentialities or 'spirituality' in the widest sense. Attachment is always to temporary, worldly affairs; non-attachment can be called 'attachment to the spiritual and immutable'.

Such non-attachment implies a renunciation of worldly desires, which results in withdrawal or detachment of our feelings from both positive and negative events that may otherwise affect us in the physical or social spheres. It is nevertheless not a non-caring detachment or simply being thick-skinned: it allows neither of 'hiding the head in the sand' nor 'losing one's head in the heat of the moment'.

It is an attitude won both of witnessing with the mind and caring with the heart which can remain equal-minded and stout-hearted by virtue of the requisite understanding. Such understanding is itself a progressive fruit of life experience and practice of non-attachment.

The attitude of non-attachment is unavoidable in the fulfilment of a person's maximum potential development. The attainment of all-round non-attachment amounts to the highest of achievements, it is not meaningful to define it in any straightforward manner.

Anything but a superficial grasp of the subject requires study combined with relevant practical experience and reflection through some considerable period of time. It is not a simple concept, nor can it be practised by any easy method. It calls for gradual insight into how the phenomena of the world and the inner workings of our minds bind us unduly, working back on us according to the law of equal returns.

However, non-attachment is not an entirely foreign experience to anyone. The extent to which it is understood and practised in actual life varies. Everyone knows what it is to feel neutral in respect of, say, possessions that neither concern nor affect us personally. This intimates at least the simplest form of non-attached relationship. The car a person is attached to, once junked and replaced, is no longer an object of attachment.

Non-attachment means letting go of desires and ideas that are the cause of unwanted habits and problems, compulsions and so-called 'neuroses' as well as other kinds of emotional and mental unbalance."